Why Your Fear of Success is Holding You Back
You heard of this concept right, Fear of success. Fear of failure is something we can all understand. But fear of success? It might sound a little funny, but many people fear success even if they don’t realize it.
Success isn’t 100% positive. And there’s a part of you that understands that. Success brings attention, requests for help. Maybe even disappointment. There may be little fun when you achieve your biggest goals and still feel like there is still something missing.
Success makes your life easier in some ways and more challenging in others. Every situation has its advantages and disadvantages. You might be suffering from a fear of success if you regularly sabotage yourself. Or if you have difficulty pursuing your dreams.
Success requires you to be more than you’ve been demonstrating.
See how the your fear of success can stop your progress dead in its tracks. Our brains crave comfort. Comfort equals survival, which is your brain’s primary objective. Changing your life requires changing your behavior, mindset, and perhaps even your beliefs and values. Thinking about these changes can create a lot of discomfort.
Success brings social pressure.
Success isn’t just a big bank account and glory. People look at you differently when you’re successful. In fact, many people that ignored you before will potentially start paying attention to you. If you are making a lot of money, people will start asking you for financial help. Additionally, Charities will start contacting you. And yes, driving an expensive car or living in a big home draws attention, too.
Success is new territory for you, and you fear the unknown.
You know what your current situation is like. You might not enjoy your current situation, but you know what to expect each day. Changing your life means dealing with new situations and new people. This can be unsettling to consider.
You’re afraid of what you might become.
You might consider yourself to be a good person, but maybe you have some concerns about what you might do if you had more money and power. We’ve all seen characters in movies and books that change for the worse after achieving success. Or, you might personally know someone that underwent a negative transformation.
You’re concerned success might not be as great as you imagine.
Humans are genetically disposed to be discontent. Have you ever noticed that a lot of things aren’t as great as you anticipated? Whether it’s a trip, a hot fudge sundae, or a new gadget you just had to own, there’s often a bit of a letdown.
You might be sabotaging yourself by worrying that you’ll put in all that work only to be disappointed in the end.
Fear of criticism.
Many people are suspicious and critical of successful people. Of course, much of this is often due to jealousy. Perhaps you’re concerned that you’ll be seen negatively by those around you. This is more likely to happen if you view successful people in a negative light. You’ll naturally expect others to see you in the same way.
Fear you’ll become someone you don’t like.
While there is no reason that success would fundamentally change who you are, many people believe that success is toxic in some way. However, success can actually provide you with more opportunities to be your true self.
The fear of success might not be as obvious as the fear of failure, but it is a real challenge for many people. If you’re not enthusiastically pursuing your goals, consider the reason. Are you afraid of success? Success isn’t perfect, but for most of us, it’s a better option than failing to achieve our potential!
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